Holy and Whole

Love woke you up this morning!

 Have a Relationship with your Father

(The all-knowing,

all-powerful God) 

    Nothing of this earth is permanent; why worry about anything:  obtaining/getting a husband, wife, children, houses, cars, luxuries, positions, fame, or fortune.  God is in control; our destinies are in His hands; He has plans and purposes for us.  He will provide for us; our lives are in His hands.

  Is a husband or wife a need or a want?   A union should be divine destiny to accomplish God’s will, His plan, not just companionship. 

Men, wait for God's guidance in pursuing a mate; and women, wait for God's guidance in accepting a mate.

  Don’t let loneliness distract you from your assignment or destiny.  Perhaps you need to be alone for a season, to hear your assignment and the required process and procedures from God.

  You need time alone with God before starting a relationship with someone.   Don’t be fearful or anxious.   It is better to be ready than to be regretful later.

  Was Eve too focused on Adam and other things and not enough on her relationship with God?   Had her focus been on God the serpent would not have been able to carry on a conversation with her.   

  The Christian life was never meant to walk alone, but be careful with whom you walk out your life.  Don’t spend time with the wrong people; persons who will encourage or help you sin.

Join not again any old sin to you; kill out everything that is not like Jesus or of Jesus.    

  Though two individuals are saved, it does not mean that they are suitable.  Singles wait on God to equally yoke you with His best for you.  “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make an help meet (helper/suitable/appropriate/ ordained) for him”.  Genesis 2:18   If you have real faith, you will allow God to choose your mate.  You will not run ahead of God.

  When you are the missing rib (the woman), it is easy for the flesh to seek a body/man to attach to.  When you are the body (the man), it is easy for the flesh to seek a rib/woman to attach to you.  Seek God for the appropriate, spiritually perfect, emotionally perfect, suitable spouse for you.      

  Those of you who are on the phone with men/women for long periods of time, examine yourselves.  You may be toying with potential sin.  Staying on the phone for long periods of time can mimic David looking, longing, lusting, and then sinning with Bathsheba.  Adultery and fornication begin in the mind.

  Illicit (unlawful, not permitted) sex is a mockery to God, an abomination.  God has not sanctioned it; therefore, it is renegade (stolen, devilish, soulish greed).

  If you cannot trust a man or woman to help keep your purity, how can you trust him or her in marriage?

   If sin is practiced, it can cause a loss of ministry and a loss of a holy spiritual life.  

Read about Samson in the
Book of Judges, Chapters 14-16

   Sin committed with another Christian causes mistrust of each other as spiritual helpmates.

   Sin brings:  Shame - Mistrust – Insecurity – Loss of true intimacy – Stagnates the growth of friendship.

  Two Christians commit fornication, and then marry.  This will cause them to carry a spirit of lack of discernment and lack of discipline into their marriage.  If you are in this situation, begin to pray and fast to make you and your marriage holy and whole.

Overcome these lacks by individual and joint Bible study, prayer, and fasting until the Holy Spirit brings deliverance to you.      

  Do not deny the power of the Holy Spirit.   God has the power to keep us from fornication, but we must exercise it.   Keep yourself from tempting occasions/situations/positions to sin.  Guard your sight, mind, and heart.

  The quickest and most thorough way that the enemy uses to try to abort God’s destiny for you is to present to you, you accept: masturbation, the wrong male/female relationship or the enemy gets you involved in homosexuality or lesbianism.   These relationships are sin.  These sins pollute the spirit, soul (heart and mind), and body, and become evil strongholds.                                            

  The woman craves affection from the man.  "...and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee."  Genesis 3:16.   The man craves conquest, a sense of accomplishment, conquering the earth (job, purpose).  "And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress (cultivate) it and to keep it."  Genesis 2:15    "In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground;..." Genesis 3:19. 

Taking a woman’s virginity; having multiple sex partners; pressing and pursuing the hard-to-get woman are:  the results of trying to fulfill the desire to bring a sense of accomplishment to the man (conquering the land) by way of SELFISHNESS.  Only Jesus can redirect this drive, and make the man a true conqueror (one overcoming evil, Satan, the true enemy).  Until this occurs in men, the family and world will continue to be dysfunctional.

  A man needs to be whole spiritually and emotionally, and somewhat established financially before dating, in order to bring emotional and physical security to a woman.  However, her spiritual security must come from God.

  We must individually have a relationship with our Father, our God.  However the man (husband/father) should oversee Church attendance and family prayer as the true head of the family.

  Acknowledge God in all things.  After seeking God, the man finds a wife; then after seeking God, the woman chooses/accepts or declines the proposal. 
                                                  
  As a husband and his wife move closer to God they will move closer to one another. 

                 GOD  
                  /   \            
         Man         Woman
                                                                                                                          
  The marriage act is the whole creature, made by God in the beginning, coming together to give glory, honor, and obedience to God.   The body (man) reuniting with the rib (woman), carrying out God’s plan for intimacy and replenishing the earth.

  "So then neither is he that planteth any thing, neither he that watereth; but God that giveth the increase." I Corinthians 3:7                                                                                                        

CHRIST - HEAD of every man

Man - Head of his wife

We each have specific work/roles to do for the kingdom; however, God, our Father, gives us the strength, the how-to-do, and the perfection of the tasks.  Husbands, wives and singles plant and water, but God makes all that He ordains to grow/increase.

  God took a rib from Adam and made Eve.  The rib curves from side to back; therefore, the wife should stand by the man’s side and be supportive (have his back). 

  Wives listen to and observe your own husbands to make your dwellings (home life) pleasant.  "Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them." Colossians 3:19 (ESV).  There is always order in what God has ordained.

  Question: Why do wives desire not to submit to their own husbands?  Answer:  Because the husbands have stepped out of place, and have not truly followed God or respected the wives in their God-given role.  When wives are not respected, they search for fulfillment, many times usurping their husbands' authority.  The wives feel no value in being helpmates.  However, as helpmates they are in a strategic (of great importance, necessary) position.  There should be order in marriages; God is a god of order.  In a corporation there is always a head person, a president/CEO, but the head person can accomplish nothing without back-up, without help.  In a marriage the wife is the help (helpmate).  "...he who loves his wife loves himself.  For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church."  Ephesians 5:28-28 (NKJV)  

  Women don’t let ambition become your husband.  Pray for the men to take their God-given positions.  Women let God give you wisdom and ministry guidance on what work(s) you are required to do outside of the home.  If your ministry is God-directed, it will not conflict with your marriages.  "...But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.  Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her own works praise her in the gates."  Proverbs 31:30-31 (NKJV) 

  We were created by God and created for God’s pleasure.  Alleluia!!!   Men don’t move ahead of God in seeking a mate, and women don’t move ahead of God in accepting a mate.  Prepare yourself for a mate, and wait!  “...seek ye first the kingdom of heaven…”

29.    As stated in (1) above:  “Nothing of this earth is permanent; why worry about anything…”  “Love the Lord God with all your heart, and your neighbor as yourself.”   Allow God to position you; "Be careful (anxious, worried) for nothing".  Have faith in God, your Father!

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Man----->   GOD   <----Woman 

                God - Creator and Center of all                  

EXCEPT AS INDICATED, ALL SCRIPTURE QUOTATIONS ARE FROM OR PARAPHRASED FROM THE KING JAMES VERSION (KJV) OF THE HOLY BIBLE.